I’ve learned that to live a life you love, you have to be clear about your intentions. You have to be clear on WHAT YOU WANT.
I always thought I’d be happier in a relationship.
My first two relationships both lasted 3 years and while it was fun in the beginning, the remainder of the time felt like being tied to an anchor. I did things just to make it work, and I wasn’t happy.
That is insane if you think about it.
WHY WOULD I CHOOSE SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T MAKE ME HAPPY?
What I realized was I wasn’t clear on was my intention. My intention was to be in a relationship. I met a guy who was nice and thought: being in a relationship equals happiness, right?
[insert long buzzer sound]
What my intention should have been was to be happy and fulfilled. THAT is living the life I want whether it includes being in a relationship or not. To be truthful, I feel just (if not more) fulfilled nurturing and spending time with my friends and family.
With anything, listening to your emotions is the best indicator to let you know if you’re on the right track.
Alignment is effortless. Living in contradiction is exhausting.
Now I’m much more clear on what the purpose of being in a relationship would be for me. Not to have someone around because I’m lonely, because I think I’m supposed to (c’mon, everyone is doing it!), or just to “make it work,” but because he’s funny, inspiring, supportive, empathetic, and lights up my life. Anyone who doesn’t do that gets the boot.
It’s a good thing to consider now that the New Year is coming and a lot of us are setting goals with our work and personal lives.
What are your intentions?