The other night I hosted a fireside chat at my home (minus the fire…because I don’t have a fireplace…) with relationship coach Bryan Reeves. The topic was “Love, Sex, & Making Magic In Relationships.” Course description:
Why are intimate relationships so challenging? Why do our partners seem uniquely designed to trigger our insecurities, emotional pain and fears? How can awareness – or ignorance – of masculine-feminine dynamics completely change your relationship experience (gay or hetero)? Join relationship coach and blogger Bryan Reeves (Good Men Project, Raw Attraction Magazine, Sexy Conscious Awake, etc.) and discover simple yet profound distinctions that can forever change how you experience your intimate attractions. You’ll learn the 3 Essential C’s of a successful long-term relationship; why masculine and feminine energies behave differently in intimacy and how to use the pain that relationships often trigger for your own massive growth and evolution.
The man/woman ratio was almost the same. We listened to Bryan speak and everyone was so into it that it went until 2am!
I’ve always had the notion that men don’t care to talk about feelings, which, in previous relationships, was interpreted as they don’t care about me. “Oh we’re fighting and you want to leave?!.” Quite the opposite actually. Bryan’s talk made it clear how the masculine/feminine dynamics work, and explained what 99% of all our relationship fights are really about. Everyone in the audience felt like saying, “Doh!!!.” It’s that simple, and it’s that hard.
What I found most fascinating that evening was how EAGER the men were to have a safe space to talk about their feelings. After the workshop concluded, ALL the men (and only the men) continued to crowd around Bryan asking questions and sharing experiences in current and past relationships. I did a little eavesdropping (hehe) and heard things like, “It took me two years…TWO YEARS to get over my ex!” and “Man, we gotta do this is again. When is your next workshop?!”
The WOMEN went to the kitchen to eat, and the MEN wanted to keep on talking…
The men were also the ones who showed up to the workshop with notebooks, which I thought was adorable. It’s so attractive when people have the courage to learn and better themselves.
Men are often much more sensitive than females, and the other night showed they simply want a safe space to talk about it. I found it fascinating (and heartwarming) to watch.
If you’re interested in this kind of stuff, check out Bryan’s site for more info. I will be hosting another fireside chat (minus the fire of course) with him on July 30th.